Pressures Kids Feel From Their Immigrant Parents

Pressures Kids Feel From Their Immigrant ParentsPressures Kids Feel From Their Immigrant Parents
Pressures Kids Feel From Their Immigrant Parents

Millions of Immigrant kids around the world face a significant amount of pressure from their parents to succeed in all aspects of their lives; of course, every parent wants the best for kids. Still, some unrealistic expectations lead to the kids feeling overwhelmed.

Often, immigrant parents have only three options for their children’s career choice: a Doctor, an engineer or a lawyer (yes, there are no other options). Considering the sacrifices immigrant parents have made for their children to have better lives, it is understandable that sometimes, they could be a little impatient and want to see instant results.

Even at such a  young age, the responsibility of explaining immigration documents, bills, school letters, doctor’s appointments and other essential translations falls on the kids. This burden could blur the roles the kids and parents play.

While the countries they move to appear to be accommodating, there are internal struggles they face. Being young, they are still discovering how they could adapt and form a personality that balances their cultural background as well as the foreign culture that they are being exposed to.

In trying to fit in, they face the dilemma of choosing whether to live their lives as an individual bound by the culture and religion or a lifestyle that is more liberal and western.

Academic achievement is the definition of success for the parents. While this is an opportunity the kids should take advantage of, their mental health and social life seem to be ignored quite often.

The parents have put their dreams and hopes on hold, making it their mission to see it played out through their kids. Knowing this, the children don’t want to be disappointment and make their parents feel like their efforts were in vain.

To understand the obstacles that the children are going through, parents need to empathize and try and understand what their children are facing instead of just reminding them of the educational opportunities they have.

Most importantly, immigrant parents mustn’t treat mental health with a stereotypical attitude. Anxiety, isolation and depression are some of the issues associated with immigration, and the key to solving this issue is open communication. With most parents having a negative outlook towards dealing with mental health issues, it could be difficult for children to approach their parents.